Monday, September 6, 2021 at 12:23 AM
What to Say About Your Sexual Health When You're on a Date
It may be tough enough to get to know someone's genuine nature on a dating app without having to factor in their sexual health condition as a complicating factor.
Our matches may not have had complete sex education, and as a result, they may be unaware of how essential it is to take responsibility for our sexual health and well-being.
For those who have received excellent sexual education, however, social constraints may prevent us from discussing sexual health with prospective partners for fear of being judged — but this does not have to be the case.
I don't think that being silent on critical knowledge that may help us all stay healthy is anything to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. If everyone is more honest about being tested, people will begin to feel less uncomfortable about getting tested, which will eventually result in a more cohesive dating environment as a result of this.
The process of starting these discussions may be awkward, so here are some pointers and suggestions to assist you navigate the sexual health conversation:
Determine when it is OK to approach someone.
If you've already established a fantastic back and forth with someone that has progressed from casual flirting to intense flirting with a sprinkling of explicit sexting here and there, it's definitely time to shift the discussion to the topic of sexual wellness.
It's critical that your match understands that your future inquiries aren't being asked out of a sense of accusation or blame, but rather because you anticipate your connection moving into physical closeness with him or her. Consider the following as an example of how you might phrase your message:
This conversation is very interesting. I can't wait for us to get our hands on some new things. Before we get down and dirty, can I just ask how you're feeling about your sexual health?
You may then speak about your own sexual health condition, which they will ideally perceive as an invitation to share theirs with you.
If your match seems shocked that you're considering a physical connection with them, it's likely an indication that you and your match aren't quite on the same page yet and that you both need to spend some more time getting to know each other before proceeding any further with the relationship.